9 Mothers Who’d Prefer Forgetting Their ATM PIN

Than Meeting Their Son’s Wife
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships can be as complicated as origami.
A mother may first hug her son’s husband only to find out unpleasant revelations later.
In other cases, friction may occur immediately, but eventually,, they may come closer.

Now let’s look at the recent sharing from MIL. My son called me later that evening, excited to tell me that he and his fiancee were coming to see us. “Hey Mom, just a heads up, try to stay calm,” he continues before hanging up. I don’t usually keep my feelings to myself, but I didn’t quite understand the meaning of his caution.

Everything makes sense when I open the door later. My cub can be seen clumsily clinging to the girl’s arm, who has a protruding belly. How do I have to proceed? I am trying to accept this new reality and look on the bright side, but my future daughter-in-law is not helping me.

You know what she said when I politely asked about their living situation and budget? “We expect your full support as we give you a grandson. Is it really true?

My son’s girlfriend used to be someone I really looked up to; she is bright, motivated, and a perfect fit for our family. Everything was going well until they decided to get married. Shortly after the gala dinner, she grabbed me by the side and told me how much she had always adored my emerald ring. She asks me to give it to her as a family treasure and wedding gift.

Remember we’ve already told the kids we’ll be giving them gifts totaling £6,000 (~$7.7k). I lost my temper and our furious argument ended. They are both mad at me now. My child supports her by pointing out that I own multiple rings.

As my son’s wedding day approached, I was choosing an elegant coral satin sheath dress with poise. But my daughter-in-law thought otherwise. She insisted I try on the hideous chiffon pantsuit she picked out, and now she’s insisting I wear it.

I wondered what the problem was with my clothes. Were the left-exposed shoulders a problem? I offered to cover them with a scarf. But I was surprised by my daughter-in-law’s reaction. She said I should wear more “age appropriate” because I look too good in dresses.

I was planning to introduce my girlfriend to my mother. We sat in the restaurant and made ourselves comfortable while we waited for them to arrive. My girlfriend calls me out of the blue. With a sniffle, she says that she will be a little late because she messed with the pedals and accidentally parked her car next to the hair salon. I calm her down and tell her to hold off on calling the owner.

My mother calls after I hang up and tells me she’s going to be late too because someone hit her car. When I asked about the place, I learned that it is next to the same hair salon. “Go ahead, Mom, but when you get there, know that it’s not just some stranger, it’s your future daughter-in-law,” I tell my mother, trying not to smile.

My daughter-in-law struck me as a nice girl at first. All I cared about her was that she brought joy to my son. One day when we were out we got hungry and asked her to bring us some food. We gave her our Kara details and she used the app on her phone to make the delivery.

Everything seemed fine until a few months later when we discovered some strange transactions in our account. After we decided to investigate, we were horrified to see that our daughter-in-law had spent about $17,000 on designer clothes, jewelry, purses, and fancy dining. At first, she was reluctant to be confronted, but when prompted, she exercised her right to do so. It seems we were unaware of these costs for about four months.

Even at thirty-five, my friend’s son was a bit of a mummy’s boy, but in the end, he decided to marry a colleague and live separately.

It is remarkable that he only raved about the beauty of his bride without introducing her to his mother. A perceptive friend, aware of her son’s low IQ, sensed that something was not quite right and decided to investigate further.

She managed to find the address of the beautiful girl’s hostel and went to meet her. There she got into a conversation with a neighbor who also had juicy things to say about the beauty. It turned out that her future daughter-in-law’s 12-year-old daughter was living with her sister instead.

Why? Because, in the words of the neighbor, “the sister can take care of the niece because she is childless anyway.” My acquaintance was shocked and asked about the father of the child. The neighbor’s response was quite telling: “Well, you know, she’s so beautiful, so beautiful…,” she smirked. He still doesn’t know the identity of the father!

I couldn’t help but be concerned about the lavish spending patterns of my son’s girlfriend. The 19-year-old waitress seemed to dress beyond measure, whether it was an expensive YSL bag or designer sneakers. Nevertheless, our friendship remained friendly and I even offered to help them financially for their wedding.

But then things changed when we went wedding dress shopping together and she picked out a $10,000 dress. I politely asked them if their modest private ceremony required such elaborate attire.

I disagreed with her statement, “I can afford it because I pay for it myself.” The mother’s declaration that her daughter was a princess only served to fan the flames.

I finally lost it and stood up to them, pointing out that my son’s fiancee was a waitress who didn’t even graduate from high school. When we had an argument, I told my son that I would not help him with the wedding expenses. I wanted to make sure they didn’t get married and drown in debt—especially since his fiancee insisted on splurging on a designer dress. I didn’t feel like there was anything I could do to help in that situation.

I spent a long time as a housewife. It started when the kids were young, but my husband and I continued to feel that there was no need to change anything even as the kids got older. My future daughter-in-law wasted no time in telling me that she didn’t think being a housewife was a true calling when we first met. After that, he couldn’t seem to stop commenting on my way of life.

She wondered how someone who didn’t work could be tired whenever he came to dinner. Even when I shared small joys with her like baking pies, she dismissed it as something I had time for because I was unemployed. I finally had enough and approached her and asked if she was feeling envious or jealous. Her rude behavior was becoming unbearable for me, so I made it clear that she was not welcome in my house. My remarks unfortunately upset her and my son, but I couldn’t take her disrespect anymore.

My daughter-in-law is a vegetarian who once tried being vegan, and my son has been married for three years. Every time they came to visit, I made vegetarian meals to make sure she had enough to eat. Because they lived in a small apartment, we had never visited them before. But recently they got a house and invited them for dinner.

I called my daughter-in-law before the visit to let her know I was allergic to nuts. Remarkably, she replied that she would never change the amount or type of nuts used in her dishes for me because she always uses them. She also advised me to pack my own food if necessary.

I told her she could take my husband and me off the guest list if that was the case.

Are you interested in the stories? With 13 people sharing their juiciest anecdotes, our story delves even further into family secrets and is sure to make you wonder what secrets might be kept in your own family. 

The stories shared by these individuals shed light on the complex and sometimes tumultuous relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Each story presents a unique set of challenges, from misunderstandings and disagreements to financial strains and lifestyle clashes. Despite the diversity of experiences, one common thread emerges the importance of open communication and mutual respect to support healthy family relationships.

From a cautionary tale of a mother-in-law caught off guard by unexpected news from her son, to a heartbreaking realization of financial fraud and extravagant spending, these anecdotes offer valuable insights into the dynamics at play in these family bonds. It serves as a reminder that beneath the surface of seemingly ordinary interactions lie deeper complexities and unspoken tensions that can strain even the strongest relationships.

As we reflect on these stories, we are reminded of the need for empathy and understanding when navigating the complexities of family dynamics. While conflicts may arise, true reconciliation and growth can occur through honest dialogue and a willingness to listen. By sharing these anecdotes, we invite readers to reflect on their own family relationships and think about how they can foster greater understanding and harmony in their homes.

Ultimately, it’s the shared experiences and bonds of love that bind us together as families, despite the challenges and obstacles we may face along the way. As we continue to navigate the complexities of relationships, may we always strive to cultivate empathy, respect, and compassion in our interactions with one another.

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