While some seemingly solid friendships can dissolve in an instant, others can last decades or even a lifetime. The 34-year-old, who is today’s hero, was horrified by the behavior of her best friend of more than 20 years on her special day. We could see that the woman wanted to cry when she told us her story in the letter she sent to our editor.
The two women seemed to have a very strong friendship.
Alyson, 34, recently wrote a letter to our editors in which she shared the heartbreaking story of her connection with Miranda, 35, who was her best friend growing up. “Last weekend my best friend from childhood got married,” she said as she began her narration. Being there to help her on her special day filled me with excitement and happiness. Bad things started happening in our relationship right away.
Alyson continues, “Miranda told me she was going to make me wear ‘girly’ clothes right after she asked me to be a bridesmaid. She gave me a list of requirements that included growing my hair to at least bob length, wearing heels, and tanning and dyeing my hair the worst thing that happened to me was having to cover up my tattoo.
Alyson made it clear from the beginning why she found all of this problematic. “I’ve always been an absolute geek since my teenage years,” the writer declared. I have never felt so uncomfortable wearing dresses, high heels, or cosmetics. But I offered to help with anything but hair growth because it was my best friend’s special day. Alyson agreed when Miranda told her that she would still be invited to the wedding but would no longer be a bridesmaid, even though she already felt terrible about the whole situation.
Things could only get worse from there and Alyson was getting more and more irritated.
“I’m a chocolatier, so Miranda asked if I could do the wedding favors and fully cater the dessert table,” Alyson continues in her narration. I was thrilled to be able to assist her with everything, even though her demands for my appearance and the fact that she reconsidered my invitation as a bridesmaid pretty much ruined our relationship. I went above and beyond to create the most incredible table which was the big hit of the day.
However, Miranda’s attitude towards Alyson was not improving at all. The woman revealed: “She then informed me that Miranda wanted to keep costs down and the wedding was getting to the point where it would be over budget.” According to her, my husband was not invited. I was furious, but she was my closest friend and we had a lot of life together. As I assumed it was all a product of her pre-wedding anxiety, I was quite understanding and even gave the couple a discount on my prices for a table I had personally set up.
The best friend’s rude behavior continued after this pivotal moment.
“A month later, when I looked over the guest list, Miranda informed me that although my husband could still attend, he would have to sit at the head table,” Alyson wrote. Alyson revealed that her husband wanted to expand his portfolio as a videographer and that he actually works as a wedding photographer. They were aware that Miranda was missing a cameraman with her future husband.
Then Alyson’s husband suggested they have a professional wedding video shot for them and he would do it for free. According to the woman, “We could work with the other vendors if we moved to the vendor table because Miranda was very happy about that.” It was decided that we would sit next to the vendors because we thought it was cool.
After that, things got really unhealthy.
“My husband and I arrived four hours early on the day of the wedding to help with the event,” Alyson wrote. I set up the dessert table and he spent time filming. After the wedding, the original space was turned into a reception and people were moved to the common room. While helping to rearrange the room, I was shocked to learn that my best friend had forgotten to put our names on the seat map.
Alyson and her husband were not on the list so they had to sit in a different area and there didn’t seem to be a vendor table. The reception was cut off from the other room; they were unable to see, hear or even communicate with anyone.
Alyson is really hurt by the whole situation.
“After it was suggested that we sit in a separate room, I went to Miranda to explain the situation,” Alyson stated. It was a mix-up, she claimed. Even though I got everything, Miranda did nothing to secure our transfer to the main room. The reception was suddenly shut down.
I spent most of the evening crying in the bathroom and missed the entire ceremony. To create a beautiful video for them, my husband filmed everything.
“After the whole situation, I texted Miranda and told her how I felt,” Alyson wrote as she finished the letter. She started apologizing, saying that she was a little distracted that day. She expressed her deep regret and desire to remain friends. And right now all I want is to never see her again.
Instructions from the Bright Side
We sincerely appreciate Alyson sharing her story with us and believe many people can relate to her feelings.
Our advice to women is to do nothing at all. We believe that Alyson has already provided enough support to her boyfriend and that she really cares about their friendship and is acting like a true friend.
However, Alyson doesn’t have to apologize to Miranda because she behaved inappropriately, and she has every right to cut off all contact with her after this incident. We would encourage Alyson to maintain boundaries between her and Miranda going forward and never consider Miranda her best friend, even if the two ladies are able to communicate again.
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In closing, Alyson’s heartbreaking experience at her best friend’s wedding serves as a reminder that even the strongest friendships can be tested by reckless actions. Despite her efforts to support Miranda on her special day, Alyson was met with disrespect and neglect, leaving her feeling hurt and betrayed.
Alyson’s decision to share her story highlights the importance of setting boundaries and standing up for yourself, even in the face of long-standing friendships. Although it can be difficult, prioritizing self-esteem and emotional well-being is essential to maintaining healthy relationships.
As for Alyson’s future interactions with Miranda, it’s clear that trust and friendship have been deeply damaged. Moving forward, Alyson should prioritize her own happiness and surround herself with people who appreciate and value her contributions.
Ultimately, Alyson’s story serves as a reminder that true friendships are built on mutual respect, understanding, and support and that it’s okay to walk away from those who can’t reciprocate those qualities.