Discovering signs of potential infidelity in a marriage can be emotionally devastating, leading to feelings of distrust, confus, ion, and helplessness. In this case, the woman’s initial trust in her husband was shaken by her intimate intercourse with another woman. Seeking help from the internet community reflects her desperation for clarity and support in dealing with this difficult situation. As she grapples with her emotions and seeks advice on how to move forward, she faces a daunting dilemma: confronting her suspicions while balancing the complexities of shared responsibilities and children in a marriage. Readers’ comments and suggestions offer a range of perspectives, highlighting the complexity of emotional relationships and the need for open communication boundary-setting in marriage.
The woman became distrustful of their marriage after seeing her husband having inappropriate contact with another woman. At fi, she trusted him, but now she’s looking to the internet community for guidance on how to resolve things and move on.
It seems like my husband might have a crush on someone else. I’m fine with him doing maintenance work and recently spending a lot of time helping out a single mom because he’s always been nice and supportive. They texted late at night, but mostly for friendly reasons.
I got worried when I read the message from her because it seemed like she was afraid her ex would show up or something and my husband wanted to go check on her at home. We fought terribly about it.
Then, without telling me, he picked her and her kids up from school aworkedork the next day. Lat,ely she has been “forgetting” tools and I can’t shake the impression that they are having an affair.
“I’m so mad at myself right now. My husband gets pretty upset when I bring up my concerns about helping this single mother. It’s getting worse.
He even asked me to babysit her kids while she went to work, but I politely declined. Simply put, I am sick of hearing about her and want nothing to do with her. My husband got very angry with me for saying no and accused me of trying to stop him from being a decent person. I’m at a loss as to what to do as I’m stuck. Should I advise this woman to stop texting him at such a late hour? I’m getting embarrassed that their friendship is limited to just that. However, it is difficult because we share children, so saying goodbye to him is not an easy decision.
I feel disoriented and unable to think straight because of the whirlwind of emotions. I welcome any guidance. After reading her several of the readers commented and offered their ideas and opinions.
Even if he doesn’t care about your feelings, he might have a good heart for her. You mentioned that you know he likes to help others, but that he needs some boundaries because it affects your relationship and your faith in him. How would he feel in the opposite position? I believe you should re-evaluate your relationship with him if he is unable to put your needs first.
Emotional relationships are tricky. Good people always slip into them. They tell themselves falsehoods, such as that there is nothing technically wrong with what they are doing. They just want the positive emotions to keep flowing; they don’t want to examine the source. Forcing them to review their actions could serve as a necessary but unwanted wake-up call.
To be honest, any truly naive husband who loves his wife would try to make sure his wife is comfortable and both women get along. And a good single mother would invite that woman and stay in touch at the right time. Keep your distance from your husband’s attempts to gaslight you and convince you that you are crazy.
Looks like you found your shining armor. They will chase even the nearest helpless woman. You become a mischievous queen trying to seduce a helpless girl and defend a brilliant knight if you raise a problem. I would immediately sit him down and tell him, “It’s her or me!” You can go live at her house indefinitely while we file for divorce, or you can end this unhealthy relationship and we go to couples counseling. My husband will not put me last in our marriage.
Not her, but me, your wife. Go if you want her to be okay. If you choose me, you won’t interact with her at all. Whether or not they are having an affair is almost irrelevant. He is happy to accept her open cast as a “surrogate husband”. That in itself is a problem. No one should take precedence over your committed life partner. This woman and your husband are playing tricks on you.
The woman became distrustful of their marriage after seeing her husband having inappropriate contact with another woman. At fi, she trusted him, but now she’s looking to the internet community for guidance on how to resolve things and move on. It seems like my husband might have a crush on someone else. I’m fine with him doing maintenance work and recently spending a lot of time helping out a single mom because he’s always been nice and supportive. They texted late at night, but mostly for friendly reasons.
I got worried when I read the message from her because it seemed like she was afraid her ex would show up or something and my husband wanted to go check on her at home. We fought terribly about it. Then, without telling me, he picked her and her kids up from school aworkedork the next day. Lat,ely she has been “forgetting” tools and I can’t shake the impression that they are having an affair.
“I’m so mad at myself right now. My husband gets pretty upset when I bring up my concerns about helping this single mother. It’s getting worse. He even asked me to babysit her kids while she went to work, but I politely declined. Simply put, I am sick of hearing about her and want nothing to do with her. My husband got very angry with me for saying no and accused me of trying to stop him from being a decent person.
I’m at a loss as to what to do as I’m stuck. Should I advise this woman to stop texting him at such a late hour? I’m getting embarrassed that their friendship is limited to just that. However, it is difficult because we share children, so saying goodbye to him is not an easy decision.
I feel disoriented and unable to think straight because of the whirlwind of emotions. I welcome any guidance. After reading her several of the readers commented and offered their ideas and opinions. Even if he doesn’t care about your feelings, he might have a good heart for her. You mentioned that you know he likes to help others, but that he needs some boundaries because it affects your relationship and your faith in him. How would he feel in the opposite position? I believe you should re-evaluate your relationship with him if he is unable to put your needs first.
Emotional relationships are tricky. Good people always slip into them. They tell themselves falsehoods, such as that there is nothing technically wrong with what they are doing. They just want the positive emotions to keep flowing; they don’t want to examine the source. Forcing them to review their actions could serve as a necessary but unwanted wake-up call.
To be honest, any truly naive husband who loves his wife would try to make sure his wife is comfortable and both women get along. And a good single mother would invite that woman and stay in touch at the right time. Keep your distance from your husband’s attempts to gaslight you and convince you that you are crazy.
Looks like you found your shining armor. They will chase even the nearest helpless woman. You become a mischievous queen trying to seduce a helpless girl and defend a brilliant knight if you raise a problem. I would immediately sit him down and tell him, “It’s her or me!” You can go live at her house indefinitely while we file for divorce, or you can end this unhealthy relationship and we go to couples counseling. My husband will not put me last in our marriage.
Not her, but me, your wife. Go if you want her to be okay. If you choose me, you won’t interact with her at all. Whether or not they are having an affair is almost irrelevant. He is happy to accept her open cast as a “surrogate husband”. That in itself is a problem. No one should take precedence over your committed life partner. This woman and your husband are playing tricks on you.
In situations where infidelity is suspected in a marriage, emotions run high and decisions are difficult. The advice and opinions shared by the online community offer a range of perspectives that reflect the complexity of the issue at hand. Some emphasize the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing one’s own needs in a relationship, others suggest facing the situation head-on-on and demanding transparency from your spouse. Ultimately, each individual must navigate their unique situation and make decisions that align with their values and well-being. Seeking advice from trusted friends, family or professional counselors can provide valuable support during such challenging times. The road to resolution can be fraught with uncertainty, but with introspection and communication, it is possible to find clarity and move forward, whether that means addressing underlying issues in the marriage or making difficult decisions about its future.